New year, New profile
It’s that time of year again when everyone does a little stock-take and makes plans for the coming year. If you’re single, it’s highly likely that “look for the one” is on the list of things to do.
I thought it would be a good time to offer up some thoughts and tips on writing a profile. It will be no accident that my comments come from a male perspective – sorry, can’t help it.
New year, New photo
It’s probably time to refresh that old photo you’ve had on your profile for the last year – that photo that is already 10 years old. I know some folk are very self-conscious or even think “they should love me for who I am, not what I look like”. The fact is, people without a profile pic will nearly always be ignored. So, find a nice picture of yourself that was taken while you were enjoying Christmas with your friends and family.
Is your profile still true?
Perhaps a year has passed since you last updated your profile. Is it all still true? Are you hoping to go to Australia for your holidays? Have you in fact already been? Well write about it. What are your hopes for the coming year?
Have you moved on spiritually or emotionally? Read back over what you wrote and ask yourself if you still feel that way.
Is my profile attractive?
I’m not talking about your profile picture (let’s assume it’s already showing your best side). Your personality comes through in what you write about and the way you say it. If you’re looking for someone who is fun, why not show them your fun side in what you write? If you have a particular interest try to engage the reader in your interest… give them something to think about.
If you only write that you like reading and listening to music – that doesn’t really say very much about you. Worse still is to say that you want to find someone “who likes the same things I do” without really saying what you like. Ok, so if you really are a great reader, what was your last read? Who is your favourite author, why? Imagine the questions you want someone to ask and answer them.
Spelling and Grammar
OK, so most men aren’t strong on this issue – except for me perhaps. With computers there really is no excuse for bad spelling and grammar. If your profile is difficult to understand very few people will hang around – I certainly won’t!
Be happy and honest
It’s no secret, but if you come over as a miserable person in your profile few people will be interested. Instead, express your optimistic side – but be honest. There are often two ways to write the same thing: positively and negatively. “I’m not interested in short men” or “I’m looking for a tall handsome man.” The same factual information is expressed, but you’ll come over better for expressing it positively.
No shopping lists please
Most men hate shopping. Most men hate shopping lists. Most men will steer clear of a woman brandishing a list of demands before they’ve even met.
What advice would you give someone else?
Write down your advice then try to follow it yourself. Feel free to add your advice to this post in the comments.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! Happy Dating!
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