The challenges of being single and Christian
I’ve just come across an interesting article in Commercial Appeal a Memphis-based newspaper. It tells the story of a Christian woman, Roshunda Buchanan, who is “dedicated to the principles of divine dating.”
The way she explains it, she was distgusted by “dating debauchery” and wanted to promote a more virtuous way of dating. She started a group called 2Unique which has an outreach programme with the mission to “impact change in mentality and behaviour through knowledge and relationships.”
“It’s about dating with integrity,” Buchanan said in the article. “It can be difficult and challenging, but you have to change your mindset.”
Buchanan’s website has a pretty good definition, I think, of what being Christian and single can be: “Singles should not view singleness as a waiting room for marriage. We have this time to strengthen spiritually and personally.”
We are where we are now, and seek God’s will for now, not do nothing waiting for what might happen.
Go check out the article: http://www.commercialappeal.com/news/2009/apr/14/virtues-of-dating/
Singles are not unfinished business
I was on Twitter looking at what people were saying about “Singleness”. Let me just say that I really don’t like the word: it reminds me too much of words like “illness” or “loneliness” – well it’s neither thank you very much.
In my twitter exploration I even saw someone say they saw a church sign which said “Marriage may be painful, but singleness is hell.” Which I think is an appalling and frankly unbiblical thing to say.
Thankfully I also came across Pastor Marvin Williams blog in which he writes very helpfully about this subject. He says that singles are not unfinished business. He says:
the church has inflicted much pain on singles by treating singleness as a disease for which the only cure is marriage.
He goes on to point out reasons why Christians may be single and to say that rather than being a curse, it’s an opportunity to be used by God in the church.
Well, rather than me repeat all that he said, go check his site for yourself.
Singles are not unfinished business pt 1
Singles are not unfinished business pt 2
